holding space for myself

In my work, I often think about holding space for others—creating a safe, non-judgmental environment where people can express themselves, process experiences, and be seen. It’s deeply rewarding, but it’s also taught me something vital: if I’m going to do that well for others, I need to hold space for myself too.

Holding space for myself isn’t like a nine-to-five job. Human lives don’t pause neatly between business hours, and emotions don’t wait until it’s convenient. Recognizing and honoring that is essential—not only for my own wellbeing, but also because it allows me to show up fully and authentically for the people I support.

Psychologically, this practice draws on self-compassion, mindfulness, and emotional attunement. It means noticing what’s present inside me without judgment, pausing long enough to ask, “What do I need right now?”, and responding with care. Sometimes holding space for myself looks like rest, sometimes reflection, sometimes journaling. Always, it is a conscious act of remembering that my own experience matters just as much as those I hold space for professionally.

Growth isn’t linear—it’s cyclical. We circle back to the same truths, but with new awareness each time. For me, holding space for myself isn’t a destination I’ll arrive at once and for all. It’s an ongoing practice, a rhythm I return to, and a lesson that continues to meet me exactly where I am. And in that ongoing practice, I find the clarity, presence, and energy to hold space for others, while honoring my own human experience along the way.